Mayo Clinic (2020) states that reiki for premature ejaculation or PE occurs when a man ejaculates sooner during sexual intercourse than he or his partner would like.
Sexual intercourse means different things to different people. The Miriam-Webster dictionary provides us with two (2) definitions:
1: Heterosexual intercourse involving penetration of the vagina by the penis: Coitus.
2: Sex may also refer to anal or oral intercourse and does not involve penetration of the vagina by the penis.
The purpose of this article is to break down premature ejaculation, its prevalence, causes, symptoms, effects, and treatment options. We will discuss Reiki, an ancient Japanese alternative treatment. We will demonstrate how Reiki can work symbiotically with treatment from a medical doctor, to provide more treatment options to premature ejaculation patients.
Premature ejaculation (PE) is a prevalent sexual complaint. Estimates indicate that about 34% of men say they experience this problem at some point in time, according to mayo clinic. That equates approximately to one (1) in every three (3) males. Symonds et al. provide a range of between 22% and 38% of males that affected by PE. Due to the sensitive nature of this complaint, researchers have noted that some patients may choose to suffer in silence, leading to underreporting of the condition. A holistic analysis of the data suggests that the prevalence could actually above 40% compared to the reported cases.
The cause of PE considered to be more psychological than physiological, according to Symonds et al. Premature ejaculation can cause by psychological factors such as:
depression or anxiety, particularly about performance
feeling anxious about rejection by a sexual partner
negative sexual experiences in childhood
problems within the relationship (Better health, 2014).
Symptoms and Diagnosis of Premature Ejaculation
Premature ejaculation should not be diagnosed if symptoms are an occasional occurrence. However, patients diagnosed with premature ejaculation if they:
Always or nearly always ejaculate within one minute of penetration
Are unable to delay ejaculation during intercourse all or almost all of the time
Feel distressed and frustrated and tend to avoid sexual intimacy as a result.
Vaginal sex typically lasts three (3) to seven (7) minutes, according to a 2005 Society for Sex Therapy and a research member survey. Premature ejaculation could, therefore, considered to have occurred if ejaculation occurs within six (6) minutes of penetration. Other factors, such as age and libido, may extend the range of PE beyond seven (7) minutes. According to the survey, vaginal sex that lasts one (1) to two (2) minutes is “too short”. Vaginal sex that lasts ten (10) to thirty (30) minutes consider “too long.”
So how long should vaginal sex actually last? The sex therapists surveyed say that anywhere from seven (7) to thirteen (13) minutes is “desirable.”
It is important to note that these figures only apply to penile-vaginal intercourse. They do not account for things like foreplay, and they are not representative of other types of sex (Santos-Longhurst, 2019).
People have sex for a number of different reasons. On the one hand, PE will enhance goal-based reasons for having sex, such as reproduction. On the other hand, PE will negatively impact physical reasons to have sex like pleasure or stress relief. The same is true for emotional factors to have sex, such as love or gratitude. The fact that people have sex most frequently for pleasure and stress relief underscores the importance of preventing premature ejaculation to a man (Miller, 2012).
Why Is Sexual Intercourse Usually So Pleasurable?
The short answer to that question is provided by Mitrokostas.
“As the pituitary gland activated, the release of endorphins, oxytocin, and vasopressin promote pain reduction, intimacy, and bonding.”
Essentially sexual intercourse makes participants in the act feel good and pleasured. People experiencing sexual intercourse will want these feelings prolonged. PE will shorten the duration of this feeling of ecstasy.
Scientists say there is a lot going on in the body that makes sex feel good. These feelings of pleasure belong to a series of physical and emotional stages that you experience when you are having sex or feel aroused.
Factors such as age and other biological determinants affect the duration of sexual encounters. As people get older, they may find that:
it takes longer to become aroused
erections are more difficult to achieve and maintain
hormonal changes contribute to things like decreased libido
Overall health and well-being, medications, and chronic ailments can all affect the duration of sex.
Effects of Premature Ejaculation
There are many effects of premature ejaculation. It is severely stressful for patients and makes forming interpersonal relationships difficult for them. Due to the embarrassing nature of the dysfunction, some men decide against establishing new relationships. PE may also have a negative impact on men and their partners in a stable relationship. Studies show that dissatisfaction with their sex life is higher in men with PE, compare with those who have erectile difficulties. PE associated with increased anxiety and stress. These factors combine to result in a reduced quality of life for men.
Symonds et al. did extensive research on this issue. They interviewed patients with PE and were able to collect a considerable amount of data about the effects of PE.
Low self-esteem is a result of an erosion of confidence. PE patients indicated that they felt they are unable to satisfy their sex partners properly. Other patients mentioned feeling inferior to the average man.
Patients indicate that they were reluctant to date or to start new relationships because they felt they would not be able to live up to their manhood. Men in existing relationships reported a lack of sex or inadequate pleasure and stress relief during sex. These factors may limit the full experience of the bonding that a successful sexual encounter can bring. The woman may feel that her partner is selfish in not catering to her needs. Some PE patients felt like their spouses were cheating and blamed themselves because they knew they were unable to make their spouses achieve an orgasm. PE-caused relationship issues can lead to severe relationship breakdowns, cheating, resentment, and arguments and may ultimately lead to separations or other forms of dangerous escalations.
Anxiety often mentions as either being a reason for PE or a consequence of PE, but, more often, it is a combination of the two. Patients felt anxiety related to their PE (either causing it or because of it). They felt anxious about having sex. The effects of anxiety results is a very stressful scenario for premature ejaculation patients.
Embarrassment and Depression
Some PE patients indicated that they felt embarrassed about being unable to satisfy their partner. The more they thought about it, the more it negatively affected their mental health and ultimately resulted in depression. The sense of shame due to the inability to please their spouse can be made even worse due to feeling of helplessness, as PE is something they did not believe they had any control over.
Treatment of Premature Ejaculation
No pharmacological agents are licensed for use in PE treatment. However, certain antidepressants and other drug classes, as well as oral phosphodiesterase 5 (PDE5) inhibitor agents (e.g., sildenafil), have been used off-label and in clinical studies. Double-blind, placebo-controlled studies, using strict dosages in carefully selected populations, have repeatedly demonstrated that these agents are efficacious in delaying ejaculation. However, when subjects discontinue the medication, the problem begins to reoccur in the same manner as it did before treatment commenced.
The cause of PE has consider to be more psychological than physiological. Hence, sex therapy was considered the treatment of choice, with behavioral and or cognitive approaches proving to be the most successful. These approaches include the stop-start technique developed in 1956 by Semans and later adopted by Masters & Johnson (1970), as well as other psychotherapeutic approaches that have become the gold standard for the treatment of PE. Some of these techniques require some degree of partner cooperation and have associated with short-term success rates of 43–65%. The results are dependent on the population studied, motivation, and therapist. However, most patients; do not maintain benefits and relapse just like with the pharmacological approach.
Another treatment option is Reiki, a form of alternative therapy that is commonly known as energy healing. It emerged in Japan in the late 1800s and; involves the transfer of universal energy from the practitioner’s palms to their patient. Energy healing has been used for centuries in various forms. It works with the energy fields around the body.
A 2007 survey shows that, in the United States (U.S.), 1.2 million adults tried Reiki or a similar therapy at least once in the previous year. Over 60 hospitals, are believed to offer Reiki services to patients. Some hospitals in America and Europe offer this energy therapy.
What is Reiki?
The word “Reiki” means “mysterious atmosphere, miraculous sign.” It comes from the Japanese words “rei” (universal) and “ki” (life energy). Reiki is a type of energy healing. Energy healing targets the energy fields around the body. Energy can stagnate in the body where there has been physical injury or possibly emotional pain. In time, these energy blocks result in illness. Energy medicine aims to help the flow of energy and remove blocks in a similar way to acupuncture or acupressure.
Improving the flow of energy around the body enables relaxation, reduces pain, speeds healing, and reduces other symptoms of illnesses. Its current form was first developed in 1922 by a Japanese Buddhist called Mikao Usui, who reportedly taught 2,000 people the Reiki method during his lifetime. The practice spread to the U.S. through Hawaii in the 1940s, and then to Europe in the 1980s. It is commonly known as palm healing or hands-on healing.
What Happens in a Reiki Session?
Reiki is best held in a peaceful setting, but it can be carried out anywhere. The patient will sit in a comfortable chair or lie on a table, fully clothed. There may or may not be music, because it depending on the patient’s preference.
The practitioner places their hands lightly on or over specific areas of the head, limbs, and torso using different hand shapes, for between 2 and 5 minutes. The hands can be placed over 20 areas of the body. If there is a particular injury, such as a burn, the hands may be held just above the wound. While the practitioner holds their hands lightly on or over the body, the transfer of energy takes place. During this time, the practitioner’s hands may be warm and tingling. Each hand position is held until the practitioner senses that the energy has stopped flowing.
When the practitioner feels that the heat, or energy, in their hands has abated, they will remove their hands and may place them over a different area of the body.
Some Reiki techniques
The techniques involved have names such as:
extracting harmful energies
smoothing and raking the aura
Reiki relies on no other instruments beyond the practitioner. Practitioners do not use crystals, powders, or wands as a general rule. However, one of the benefits of Reiki healing is distance healing (where Reiki is sent over several miles) then, many practitioners will use crystals to assist with energy vibrations.
Sessions can last between 15 and 90 minutes. The number of sessions will vary depending on what a client wishes to accomplish. Some clients prefer to have one session, while others have a series of sessions to work on a particular issue.
Health benefits of Reiki
The healing effects are mediated by channelling the universal energy known as qi, pronounced “chi”. In India, this is known as “prana.” This is the same energy involved in tai chi exercise. It is the life force energy that surrounds all of us. But this energy is said to permeate the body. Reiki experts point out that while this energy is not measurable by modern scientific techniques. But It can felt by many who tune in to it.
Reiki aids relaxation, assists in the body’s natural healing processes, and develops emotional, mental, and spiritual well-being. It also induces deep relaxation, helps people cope with difficulties, relieve emotional stress, and improves overall well-being.
People who receive Reiki describe it as “intensely relaxing”. As we have discovered above, PE is caused by and is also an effect of anxiety and stress among other factors. The anxiety and stress relieving benefits are partly why Reiki is such an effective treatment option for PE.
Other conditions that Reiki has been used to help treat include:
Premature ejaculation is a condition affecting millions of men in society today. Its cause is stress and anxiety and other psychological factors and also results in stress and anxiety for men and their partners. PE ruins existing relationships and prevents new ones from happening.
It is easy to diagnose but difficult to treat. Reiki is a treatment option that can work simultaneously with any treatment a patient may be undergoing with their medical doctor. Patients may consult with their doctor before starting a Reiki treatment. The doctor will confirm that Reiki will not interfere with other therapies being administered.
Reiki treatments can be done in person or from a distance. It is affordable and will aid with healing PE. Additional benefits of Reiki are, it can also ease other forms of physical and emotional pain and tension. Reiki helps to put people’s life back on track, thereby enhancing their quality of life.
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